He ruined a lot of my relationships, especially with my family. Even when they felt perhaps something was wrong and wanted to help me, I was too brainwashed to allow them to.

Remember when you told me you trusted me with your life?

For me the emotional damage was so much harder to deal with than any physical hurt I endured. The wounds on your heart don't heal as fast as the bruises on your body. 

I never understood why losing my virginity felt like such a traumatic experience until while looking at the definition of rape online one day, years later, I saw the term sexual coercion mentioned beside it, which I learned was within the realm of rape and I was so glad I had finally found my answer.

Sometimes people can lie and change their minds, their actions show their true character. 
If someone talks about how much they care and their actions don't match what they say, then this person's word should mean nothing to you. 

Everyone heals differently and has different experiences to heal from but if there is a possibility it may help someone by sharing this, then why not? So this is what I did:

Moving on to a new relationship immediately without taking time out to heal your inner self is unfair to the other person and to yourself